In a bold and emotionally charged statement, popular actress and self proclaimed love therapist Destiny Etiko has sparked intense conversations across social media with her recent comments on the shifting dynamics between men and women in modern relationships. “There was a time when men were men, and women were women,” Etiko begins. “Our fathers knew their roles as providers, protectors, and leaders. Today, that balance is broken.” Her message, while controversial to some, echoes the frustrations of many women navigating relationships where traditional gender roles have been blurred, not necessarily by progress, but by imbalance. According to Etiko, many modern men have lost their sense of purpose, choosing comfort over responsibility. “Instead of being strong providers,” she writes, “they now seek mothers, not wives. They want to be fed and cared for, while offering nothing in return.” She paints a vivid picture of women hustling through life working multiple jobs, running businesses, and bearing emotional and financial burdens, while some men spin tales of ‘pending contracts’ and business deals that never materialize. For Etiko, this isn’t just about relationships; it’s about accountability and the decline of masculine leadership. “Masculinity is fading, and responsibility is being dodged,” she says. “Women are now wearing the pants, while too many men sit back, waiting for comfort, attention, and a handout.” Her closing words are a call to action directed at young men across Africa and beyond: “Young men, please get up and work.” The statement, has ignited both praise and backlash online. Some applaud her honesty, calling it a much-needed wake-up call. Others argue that the evolving nature of relationships requires more nuance than rigid traditional roles. Regardless of where one stands, Destiny Etiko has once again done what few dare start the uncomfortable conversations about love, gender, and what it truly means to show up in a partnership.