In a statement that has sparked fresh debate on gender roles and dating culture in Nigeria, reality TV star and entrepreneur Dorathy Bachor, popularly known from Big Brother Naija, voiced her frustrations about modern relationships and what she perceives as a growing lack of generosity from men, unless conditions are met. Taking to social media under the pseudonym Aspiring Achalugo, Dorathy aired her thoughts in a now viral post: "Life used to be very simple before now. If you demand money from a guy or tell a problem, they solve it for you. But these days any demand you make from a guy, he will just ask you to COME TO HIS HOUSE. What is there in your house that you always ask us to come before you help us?" Her remarks have ignited widespread reactions, with many women echoing her sentiments and recounting similar experiences. The core of her message? A critique of how many men now seem to withhold support, financial or emotional, unless women agree to visit them in person, often with implied expectations. The phrase “Come houze fess” has since become a trending expression online, with memes, commentary, and hot takes flying across platforms like X (formerly Twitter) and Instagram. Dorathy’s statement touches on a broader issue in the dating landscape: the transactional nature of some modern relationships and the expectation of physical presence often in private spaces as a prerequisite for care or assistance. Some commentators believe it reflects a shift away from traditional expressions of masculinity, where men would readily offer help or support as a sign of affection or responsibility. Others argue it's part of a necessary cultural reset, where men are more cautious about being used for their resources. Still, for many women like Dorathy, the concern is simple: “Why do I need to come to your house before you treat me like someone you care about?” Public figures, influencers, and fans weighed in with mixed opinions. Some supported her call-out, while others questioned if the expectations of Odogwu-like behavior from men come with reciprocal efforts. Regardless of where one stands, Dorathy’s viral comment has opened up a raw and timely conversation about dating dynamics in 2025, respect, and boundaries. One thing is clear: Aspiring Achalugo is not afraid to speak her truth and many are listening.