Veteran Nollywood actress Ebele Okaro has offered a sobering yet heartfelt reflection on how love and relationships have evolved and the silent cost too many young women are paying. In a time when modern culture glorifies speed over substance, Ebele calls for a return to wisdom, patience, and self-respect. “In our time, we were shy and careful with love. We respected ourselves and didn’t rush.” There’s no condemnation in her words, only concern. Deep concern for a generation of young women who, in a bid to keep love, give their all before a man gives anything. “Today, many girls are already having children for men who haven’t paid a dime on their heads. It hurts because when it all falls apart, it’s the woman who carries the pain, the scars, and the shame, while the man walks away untouched.” Ebele’s message is painfully true. Too often, when a relationship ends, it’s the woman who’s left to pick up the pieces with a child to raise, emotions to heal, and dreams to rebuild. “You’ve given him everything your body, your heart, even a child. And if he walks away, what do you have left?” This is not about judging those who’ve made mistakes or those raising children outside of marriage. It’s a wake-up call to be intentional. To stop letting desperation, pressure, or trends dictate your worth. Ebele urges young women to think long-term and set healthy standards: don’t let pressure or desperation push you into losing yourself. Set boundaries, value your worth, and protect your future.” Because at the end of the day, you’re the one who lives with the outcome. “In the end, it’s you who pays the price.” Ebele’s voice is not one of judgment, but of wisdom. She speaks like a mother, like an elder who has seen the highs and lows of life and love. Her message is simple: Don’t give the crown of a wife to someone who hasn’t earned the responsibility of a husband. Let love wait. Let it prove itself. Let it be built on commitment, not desperation, not trends, not pressure.