In a candid reflection that’s generating conversation across social media, beloved Nollywood actress Mercy Johnson is calling for a shift in the mindset of today’s women when it comes to love, relationships, and self-worth.
“It’s like almost every girl now is searching for a man who will pay all her bills, buy everything she wants, and solve all her problems,” she begins.
“Nobody wants to build together again. Everybody just wants ready-made.”
Her words echo a growing concern among many, that relationships are beginning to feel more like transactions than connections. And while Mercy clarifies that there’s nothing wrong with desiring comfort, she highlights a deeper issue:
“Many of you don’t even care about love or respect. The first thing you ask is, ‘Can he take care of me?’ Not even, ‘Does he value me?’ or ‘Can we grow together?’”**
Mercy speaks from experience and observation. Her insight reveals a common pattern: relationships that begin based solely on material expectations often end in disappointment.
“Once the man sees that you are only after what he has, he starts planning his way out.”
This isn’t just about money. It’s about motives the “why” behind who we choose. And according to Mercy, it’s time to rethink that “why.”
Rather than waiting for a man to become a personal ATM, Mercy urges women to invest in themselves spiritually, emotionally, and financially.
“Dear ladies, be wise. Try and work on yourself. Have something doing. Be a woman that adds value.”
Her message is clear: Relationships thrive when both people contribute. Not just financially, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Love is not built on one person carrying all the weight while the other simply receives.
“Love is sweeter when both of you bring something to the table. Not just one person carrying all the load.”
In a time where "soft life" is often interpreted as "let someone else do everything," Mercy’s message is a refreshing reminder of the dignity of growth, the beauty of shared responsibility, and the strength of women who bring value to the table, not just expectations.
